July 24, 2019

Building Self Confidence that will last

helping you find your voice and be seen so you can make money and live the life you truly love

In today’s chaotic world of media, building self confidence is such a key issue for creative entrepreneurs.

Because the very platforms that we use to connect with others and market our businesses also contribute to our experience of insecurities.


It’s hard to notice how often we experience those tiny little pangs of inadequacy, of self doubt, of imposter syndrome from working and scrolling online but they happen right?


And over time they add up.

The result of our use of social media can show up as procrastination, overwhelm, lowered confidence, higher levels of insecurity, a sense of disconnection, dissatisfaction and sometimes even shut down from expressing ourselves freely.

And I can tell you from personal experience, it’s crippling – not only on your emotions, your sense of self worth but on how well we feel we can live our lives.


so how can we beat insecurities and build self confidence?


There are a number of things that can help us feel and stay well whilst busying in our art, work and lives.

Obviously taking care of our physical health is one of them.

Caring for our mental health is another.

And I was certainly never taught about cultivating emotional health suffice to say – it’s another biggie.

But personal congruency is the key, not only to our well-being and sense of satisfaction with our lives and selves – to building our emotional well-being – but to the health of our businesses too.



The question is:

how can we possibly take care of all of those things whilst balancing life, motherhood, entrepreneurialism, creativity and everything else that heads our way?


Let’s keep it simple:

We take care of our foundation.

Sleep, eat, move, hydrate, be true to our selves.


I know, it seems too simple but as Brendon Burchard famously says: ‘Common sense is not often common practice.’

In Maslow’s pyramid of human needs the foundation of rest, water, food and warmth gives us the basis of life, of our physical requirements to stay alive, but I’ve added personal integrity because without it our mental, emotional and in turn physical health declines too.

In a society that has been set up to pull us away from who we truly are and persistently tells us how to feel, what to think about ourselves, what to buy and what to do, personal integrity couldn’t be more important.

It provides the basis to what Maslow lists as our other human needs – safety, security, connection, belongingness, prestige or a feeling of accomplishment and self-actualisation – the expression and achievement of ones potential.

All of which are built on a strong foundation of self confidence.

Without staying true to ourselves it’s tough for us to connect fully with other people, we keep ourselves at a distance, worried about the façade of truth, of what people think of us kicking off a spiral of self doubt and a lack of safety, separation and loneliness.

Those feelings of separation, worry and self doubt can keep us from stepping up to achieving accomplishment or full expression, fulfilling our potential.

We become stuck and overwhelmed. And our social structure along with regular use of social media contributes to that.

When all we really need to know is more about who we really are, what our skills are and what makes us special allowing us information that helps with building self confidence that will last.


So how the heck do we return to deeper integrity with ourselves and build self confidence?


Self connection.

By exploring our selves, what we like, our choices, our stories, our lives, what makes us who we are, we become able to give ourselves acknowledgement and validation and gain clarity that throughout and under it all, that we’re actually doing alright, are unique and can stand out in strength doing what is right and good for us and only us.

That exploration leads to greater honesty with ourselves, greater authenticity, knowledge and building self confidence in who we are, what our strengths, skills and talents are, what we can share with others leading us to cultivate deeper connections and enjoy the reflection of these things in our lives and relationships.

That heart exploration and self expression gives us direction, momentum and the ability to build up our businesses in a way that feels good, takes out the fluff, noise and pomp and helps us return to simplicity.

So our return to sovereignty benefits our health, our businesses, our relationships and our well-being – building self confidence that will last because it’s built on a clear foundation of who you are and know yourself to be – not who you fear you may not be.

This energy creates clarity, ease and harmony in your practice, work and state of being giving us not only a nicer way to live and experience more joy but an easier way to attract opportunities and create income.


Why is this necessary?

Have you ever asked yourself whether your work is good enough?


Whether you’re worthy enough of making a living from doing what you love?


Mistrusted your work or self?


Think everyone else has so much more magic / experience / talent than you?


If you’ve experienced the self doubt riddling it’s way through your veins, if you feel exhausted from the turbulent world of social media marketing, noise and gumph or worry that your work, what you have to say, how you express yourself may not be enough then this work is necessary – for your own health and happiness.

Self connection helps us to return to love, to ourselves, to belonging, to building self confidence and truly enjoying our lives.

Not only do we deserve to feel better, but our natural state is one of curiosity, creativity, of wonder, joy and abundance and when that’s depleted and we’re moved into feeling insecurity and a lack of harmony, we’re unknowingly conditioning ourselves to stay in this space, become ill and loose our vitality for life and our art.


Your work is worth more.


You are worth more.


You deserve to enjoy life – more.


If this speaks to you and you’d like a way back to yourself, to feeling quietly confident, gaining clarity over your work, direction, personal expression and brand check out my free guide to finding your voice and amplifying your unique magic right here.

Or if you’re ready to make a change in your life today my signature program Solace can help you find your creative voice and infuse more of who you are into your work and life, helping you connect with others, build self confidence, well-being and experience more joy in all areas of your life.

All love


Hello, I’m Kiki-Sunshine An artist, writer, mentor and educator you’ll usually be able to find me in the garden fingers plunged deep into the earth playing with flowers, or listening to saltwater music and painting from our Cotswold cottage.

I pretty much rock a mum bun everyday, I’m a passionate tea drinker, I’ve been in business for a decade and I get the whole self expression, being human and doing business thing.

It can be a jungle to wade through and often our confidence can be knocked right out of the park but you don’t have to go it alone to finally feel you’re moving forward creating a business and a life that enhances your happy, let’s walk this path together (and stop to smell the flowers along the way!).

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