TWO YEARS AGO I STARTED ON A PATH OF RADICAL TRANSFORMATION
I had little idea of what I was really feeling, I didn’t know who I was supposed to be, I didn’t recognise the person I saw looking back at me in the mirror nor did I know quite how to process the life going on around me.
I called everything into question even down to the food I enjoyed eating.
And for someone who’s always had a clear idea of who she is, what she does or doesn’t like, what she values, enjoys and a good healthy dose of imaginative ambition this hit me like a landslide. I felt as though I had had the rug swept out from under me. So much of what I had identified with or known as 'me' was brought into question and I soon discovered just how much I had been hiding the real me in order to fit in, to not cause waves, to be liked, to be the good wife, entrepreneur, coach, party girl, friend that I had thought I needed to be.
So this all came as quite a shock to me.
Post pregnancy I didn’t like or recognise the person I saw in the mirror.
So I got to bring my attention to that person, to become conscious of all of my choices and to shape my self into who it is I really am by stripping away all of the preconceptions, judgements and shoulds that I previously adhered to.
I didn’t do any of this for my work in fact at the same time I was also taking the marketing programmes, working with coaches to advance my business too. But every road I took to better my business led me back to a place I hadn’t expected.
Every road led me back to my self, to integrity and to having me ask what the truth is for me, what is right for me to the degree I now feel solid yes’s, no’s and receive messages in my body as energy. I know how to stay in integrity with who it is I am and what it is I want to do, trusting myself to this degree - which is a practice - is super empowering.
I also got to strip away a load of the crap I don’t need. The conditioning that keeps us in comparison, in self doubt, with a lack of personal assurance and stuck in the shoulds that tell us how to eat, sleep, act, dress, behave and be, it means that I got to streamline my working process, choose the way I live my life based on what works for me, my natural rhythm and how I want my lifestyle to be.
It also means that all of the things I was chasing to create through my business - the feeling of abundance, of ease, of achievement and personal wisdom and pride, of daily joy, creativity, play and love - was already with me regardless of the financial figures I once thought would bring me those feelings.
We chase money to the degree that it holds us back from who it is we really are, focused solely on the end goal, but it’s being who we really are that gives us confidence to be seen, that allows us to stand out, that gives us the ability to have the impact that we want to create in the world and to experience the success as well as making the income we want, but further than that - it's being who we really are that gives us something money can't buy - true belonging.
We’ve been going about it all the wrong way.
The income follows already feeling abundant, already knowing that who it is we are is enough, is a gift and embodying the energy of presence and then sharing that with the world only this time doing it without the self doubt, without the fear and without the comparison and anxiety because when you come from this space you already know that you’re enough, that your message is unique and that you have something that needs to be shared, when you come from this space you become the vibrational match to the energy of abundance which only serves to create more of the same.
But most of us don’t do this work.
We don’t dare look at ourselves.
Do we really think that if we look so hard we will find something so bad?
Or is it really a case that we’re just scared of how powerful we really are?
We all come from the same source, we all arrive here being the essence and energy of love and play, of curious experience and acceptance I witness this daily watching my daughter, it’s just that the world that has taught us otherwise.
But when you become brave enough to tentatively take that look at who you really are, at what you want and what you’re here for, you get to uncover everything that’s abundant about you about life about love - up-levelling in all areas of your life and finding the freedom, belonging and success you craved.
There is no amount of money per month that can bring all of this to you but being in alignment and integrity can, you just have to be brave enough to dive in, to take the chance on who it is you really are, to listen to that small voice inside that reminds you that you're worthy, you are capable and that you can. Because its right.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? "
What this means for you
It means that I get it and I've been there.
I've worked with over 4,000 business owners, I've had 5 businesses myself in the past decade and I know what chasing your vision and not getting far enough really feels like. I know how frustrating, hair pulling and heart sinking it can be when you try X Y or Z strategy and still don't see the results or feel the success you were promised. I know what it's like to hustle and still struggle.
I know what it's like to go through the self doubt, comparison, through the anxiety that comes into play when we question what's wrong with us, why we're not getting the great results we desire, creating the life we wanted and whether we're enough to create what we want in the world.
I know what it's like to feel as though you're different, to feel as though you don't fit in anywhere and be unsure whether you'll ever find belonging or security ease and happiness in your self, work or relationship.
I also know what its like to get what you wanted and still feel like something is missing and thats why
your connection with yourself is primary and central to everything in your life,
yet goes way beyond our impression of self love.
And it means that I know whole heartedly that there is another way to achieve everything you want that feels really damn good, brings ease, gives you time, that gives your life or business a solid foundation to build upon, that gives you true belonging, self assurance and wholeness as well as the tools to create the impact and income you desire.
The magic is that you already have all of it inside of you - you just need to uncover it.
My mission is to empower women worldwide
to live and lead their very best lives
Around that time every month I have a tendency to walk into things. Like door frames, windows or cupboards (so far I've not discovered Narnia but I'll keep trying)
I've conquered severe depression and eating disorders without medication
I lost sight of myself and all confidence in who I was, what I had to offer and what I could create after giving birth which is why I specialise in empowering other women to stand in their power, confidence and truth - whatever that may be
I didn't eat or enjoy chocolate before my daughter was born. Even I think thats weird.
I feel the most myself when I'm near an ocean
I have a compulsive book buying disorder
I believe everyone has a superpower
I'm a huge introvert
Last tv series binges: Versailles season 2